| Danni posted this entry on Downelink and i thought i should share it with all of you, i mean just in case you dont have downelink. I think it's very inspirational and maybe it will help you out or you may relate. I for sure got touched by this entry and it made me have a different perspective on things.  enjoy`
There was a time in my life I became afraid to
fall in love. Because every time I fll in love,
I gt hurt. I thought maybe that's why
it's called "falling" in love. I would give my
all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly. It would
be a truly emotional, extremely euphoric
experience. I would be dreaming about the object
of my affection all day and all night, imagining
good times together, thinking of what I can do
or buy for him to show how much I care. I would
feel light as a feather, energized and excited,
literally blooming with the joy I feel inside.
Then somehow things would go wrong and my whole
world would crash. Disappointment. Resentment.
Anger. Pain.
Why? Can we not love without feeling pain? Is it
really a price to pay for all the happiness we
feel when we are in love? Should we just
accept that because we love, we risk getting
hurt? It was only after many years of soul-
searching and reading inspirational writings
that I realized that we can love without getting
hurt. Only recently did I understand what
unconditional love is all about. Love is one of
the most powerful forces in the universe. It is
the fire that burns inside, the essence of being.
Love is the source of all our comfort and
contentment. It is a precious gift that defines
our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we
can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can
love to the fullest and be happy the rest of our
lives. Accept that other people express love
differently. How do you express love? You say "I
love you" three times a day, kiss and embrace as
often as you can, you never forget
anniversaries, you always prepare his favorite
dishes.
How does he express his love? He rarely says I
love you", he seldom kisses you, he forgets your
birthday, and he doesn't know how to cook. But
he works overtime, walks the dog, takes out the
garbage, takes you to movies, and calls
you "honey". He probably loves you more than you
can imagine, he just shows it differently. If
you can accept that then you will have a
healthier perspective of your relationship.
Derive happiness from giving love. When you
love, do it because you want to. There is an
indescribable joy in loving. Just give it. And
cherish satisfaction in having given someone
something of yourself. It's like giving a gift.
Whether it's appreciated or not, find joy in
simply giving. Love without expecting anything in
return. This is where pain comes in... when you
demand something in return for the love you
give.You are setting yourself up for
disappointment because love cannot
always be reciprocal. Love between two people
can never be of the same intensity at the same
time and place.
No matter how much your partner loves you, she
will never be able to fill all your needs all
the time. And you will be in the worst situation
if you believe you should love only when you are
sure to receive equal love in return. You will
be waiting in misery forever. Love now. The past
is gone and the future is just a dream. All of
yesterday's aches and pains, as well as the
loves and laughter, are mere memories.
Let them go. Fantasies and worries are for a
future that may never come. Don't dwell on them.
Live now. Give love now. Do it now and enjoy it
now. That is the secret of genuine
contentment.Throw away those destructive
habits. When you insist upon yourself that you
always have to be in control, that you always
have to be right, that others must always please
you, you put yourself in a very tight spot.
Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic, and
evolving. Leave room for change and interaction.
Allow for new behavior and learning
experiences.When we welcome these into our
lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and
affection and less frustration and pain. Yes,
you will say that unconditional love is easier
said than done. I agree. Especially
when we have always believed that love is give
and take. But try believing that love is simply
giving. And you will be surprised that a lot of
it, even more, actually comes back to you.
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